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WE were downing cold ones while perched on tall bar stools last weekend when my colleague’s phone rang on end – but he would neither answer nor return the call.

Each time the gadget rang, he would check who the caller was before sucking his teeth and continue imbibing the wise waters like a sponge. On inquiring why he was not answering, Tawanda replied: “Pane vamwe vanhu vasinganete kuchemachema. If you answer that call you will be presented with so many problems that need a financial solution. It is better to avoid that person from the onset.”

Tawanda was not the only one who held that view.

A shapely woman who was sitting next to us said some phone calls were simply not worth even answering.

“It sounds rough to say that but that is the honest truth. There are some people who think it is their God-given right to be assisted, yet they do not do the same to those that assist them. Munhu haungamuteedzere ukamupedzera zvaanoda,” she said in this conversation which was joined by almost everyone in the bar.

Gentle reader, there are phone calls which when you receive you automatically know that there is a catch somewhere.

If you receive a call from someone over the weekend, half the time they are broke and desperate to drink from your pocket.

Few friends, however, can give you a ring to ply you with beer and other niceties this small world of ours has to offer.

Girlfriends are in the same bracket.

These often call men they perceive to be in better economic circumstance using titles like “honey,” “sweetie,” “darlie,” and “lovey” to ensure they glean as much cash from you as possible.

If this fails to work out, they then try other tricks.

Complaining is actually a tool used by some people to achieve their goals.

When children cry or throw tantrums, it is a sign of displeasure and the same can happen to mature people who can make it a point to make someone feel obliged to assist them.

“Kana mukasandibatsira imimi, handina kana kumwe kwandingaruwana rubatsiro urwu,” a number of people will say before going about bad-mouthing you for offering help that is less than a drop in the ocean.

These are the kind of people who will always remind you, “Kana ndarohwa nenhamo nani usiye ndife panekunditaurira mandakumbwarara ekuti ndiri wenhamo.”

People who are given to complaining are so crafty that at times they forward complaints against their managers so that unjustified loans they would be after are processed as a way to mollify them.

“The manager is so rough. He does not even understand the plight of ordinary workers who have to do with working obscene hours for very little pay. The greatest challenge is when you are a woman,” such characters will to draw public sympathy.

Such crooks have the temerity to lie about not having food for the children.

“Dai kuri kuti ndini hangu munhu mukuru hazvina basa, asi kuti vana vadiki sevari kumba uku vapedze vhiki vasina chavadya zvinoti remei,” they will say just to get money which they will then splash on beer.

According to Wordweb dictionary complaining is “expressing pain or dissatisfaction of resentment”.

Some people will never phone just to check on you without ending up saying: “Ndanzwa nekudyiwa nemadhadha mukandiwanirawo $50 mungaite basa.”

Forever asking for favours are a good number of people who seem never to entertain the thought that the same person they pester for solutions will also be facing his own personal challenges.

Friends will always call you whenever they need company after losing a relative of their own, but when the same happens to you they will proffer all sorts of excuses.

“Sorry hako shamwari nezvaitika izvi, but ndatonzi ndikarovha kubasa mangwana panoita mahwani chaiwo,” you hear people lying through their teeth.

“I really haven’t had that exciting life. There are a lot of things I wish I would have done, instead of just sitting around and complaining about having a boring life.

“So I pretty much like to make it up. I’d rather tell a story about somebody else,” once remarked Kurt Cobain.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems,” also posited Zig Ziglar

Evangelist Joyce Meyer is on record as saying, “Complaining is dangerous business. It can damage or even destroy your relationship with God, your relationships with other people, and even with your relationship with yourself.”

Complaining, according to experts, is unbecoming of the true Christian and yet people are proficient at it.

“Do all things without complaining and disputing.”- Philippians 2:14.

“In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18.

Most people fall in the trap of always complaining because of an undeclared belief that they deserve more and better.

But did you know that to complain is to say God is not just?

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? Just as it is written, “For Your sake we are killed all day long We were considered as sheep to be slaughtered.

“But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”- Romans 8:35-39.

According to some researchers, complaining is one of the most obvious indicators to show us just how connected our mouths are to our hearts.

“Call it what it is. If it really is complaining, then giving it friendly-sounding nicknames like will only deceive you more. Complaining is sin”.

Not being satisfied with one’s station in life breeds woes like thuggery and witchcraft.

It is important to stop complaining and work for the betterment of one’s life.

Inotambika mughetto.

Source : The Herald